I never intended for this blog to be about my children. I thought my blog would be about my life and my ponderings...aka...Lorene's Babble. Cute isn't it. Instead though as I read back over the last several years I realize that my life and my ponderings are my children. They are one and the same.
I became a mom for the first time at the ripe old age of 15. I turned 15 in July and had Robby in August. Cue 2 years and I turned 17 in July and had Dennis in September. Life happened and in between raising my boys and earning two college degrees I met and married and man of my dreams, my best friend Tim. We miscarried our honeymoon baby "Peanut" and then proceeded to be blessed with two beautiful daughters, Sydnie was born when I was 26 and Bridgette when I was 28.
If you have followed my blog you know that we are now blessed with four beautiful foster children. We have six kids in the home ranging in age. They are 11, 9, 8, 5, 2 and 10 months. I can honestly say that I never planned my life to be a mother but it is something I love and I am damn good at it. Mary Kay once said that if you love your work you'll never work another day in your life. I do love my children and I will never say they aren't work but I can't imagine my life being any different then it is right now.
Thank you Tim for sticking by my side and continuing to raise "our" children. Thank you Sydnie and Bridgette for making the family decision to begin foster care. Thank you God for being by our side every step of the way.
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Confusion
I have been a Foster Parent for 3 months. I have biological children ranging in age from 23 down to 9. Needless to say I've been a parent for awhile now. I love each and every one of my children and would lay my life down for them. I love them, each and every one of them, every day of my life. I can't imagine not having my children.
Currently we have 4 foster children. They are 10 months, 2 years, 5 years and 8 years. I look at these precious babies and realize that out there in this world right now is their parents and they are not with them. They don't see them on a daily basis, they don't talk to them on a daily basis and sometimes not even on a weekly basis. I don't understand where you have to be in your life to not have your children. To have someone else determine you are not a fit parent. To have a check list to get these children back in your life.
Recently I found out that our 10 month old 8 year old are about to become a big sister and big brother. I am so confused. I don't understand how when you have lost two of your children you simply replace them by getting pregnant. Is it to hard to follow the orders you have been given to get them back? If it is so hard to get them back should you be allowed to keep this newest baby?
I don't have the answers to these questions and for that I am thankful. To understand these questions means that I have slipped into that mentality. Instead I'd rather be the one who these babies turn to when they call out Momma and I'd rather be the one there for them day in and day out. In the mean time I hope these parents figure out and remember what they have lost before it is to late for them.
Currently we have 4 foster children. They are 10 months, 2 years, 5 years and 8 years. I look at these precious babies and realize that out there in this world right now is their parents and they are not with them. They don't see them on a daily basis, they don't talk to them on a daily basis and sometimes not even on a weekly basis. I don't understand where you have to be in your life to not have your children. To have someone else determine you are not a fit parent. To have a check list to get these children back in your life.
Recently I found out that our 10 month old 8 year old are about to become a big sister and big brother. I am so confused. I don't understand how when you have lost two of your children you simply replace them by getting pregnant. Is it to hard to follow the orders you have been given to get them back? If it is so hard to get them back should you be allowed to keep this newest baby?
I don't have the answers to these questions and for that I am thankful. To understand these questions means that I have slipped into that mentality. Instead I'd rather be the one who these babies turn to when they call out Momma and I'd rather be the one there for them day in and day out. In the mean time I hope these parents figure out and remember what they have lost before it is to late for them.
Friday, September 21, 2012
Chinese and Karma
I have a doctor's appointment today. I'm not necessarily excited about this appointment. I don't want to know what I weigh or how my blood pressure is doing. I know these things. I am overweight and my blood pressure and I aren't friends. I have 6 kids in the house. Of course it is a little high. Do I exercise? I ask if this is a trick question. I don't per say exercise but I do chase around a 10 month old, 2 year old, 5 year old, 8 year old, 9 year old and 11 year old. I think that should be an Olympic sport. Every mom in the world would qualify and somehow every mom would win. We are the masters of this new art form.
So knowing I have a doctor's appointment and knowing how it is going to go what do I do. I order Chinese for lunch. Yummy Hunan Beef and Egg Rolls. It sounded good at the time. I knew Karma was coming up to bite me hard. I dripped the oil from those egg rolls all down the front of my shirt. So now when I go to the doctor she has proof that I also eat very bad for me food and also happen to wear some of it.
Who knew Chinese and Karma were synonyms!!
So knowing I have a doctor's appointment and knowing how it is going to go what do I do. I order Chinese for lunch. Yummy Hunan Beef and Egg Rolls. It sounded good at the time. I knew Karma was coming up to bite me hard. I dripped the oil from those egg rolls all down the front of my shirt. So now when I go to the doctor she has proof that I also eat very bad for me food and also happen to wear some of it.
Who knew Chinese and Karma were synonyms!!
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
School has started, School has started, School has started!!
School has started, School has started, School has started!!
Maybe I shouldn't be this excited but we now have a schedule. Okay as much of a schedule as we can. We have Sydnie and Bridgette playing volleyball, Battle of the Books and Choir, Sydnie has Math Club and then SAS has football. Throughout all this we are also working with 2 case workers for 3 family visits a week. In our down time (okay quit laughing now) in our down time we are still chasing a 5 year old, 2 year old and 9 month old. I have been asked a lot recently if I am losing weight. The only response I have is that I don't have time to eat I am to busy chasing one kid or another!
Of course now that school has started what does that mean. According to the kids it means lets get ready for birthdays and Christmas. Yikes! I don't think I can release the joy of school starting to stress over 6 birthdays in 2 months with Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years sandwiched in there. Lets just go back to my original joy...
School has started, School has started, School has started!!
Friday, August 10, 2012
Summer Time
It's hard to believe that school is starting right around the corner. We have had so many changes in our lives over the last couple of months that I find it hard to believe that is it is already August. We had SAS and ALK join us on June 7th and then we had GRC and BDC join us on July 11th. When I wonder where the summer has gone I have to remind myself that we have expanded our family from 4 to 8 in less then 2 months. We now have an 8 month old, 2 year old, 5 year old, 8 year old, 9 year old and 11 year old. When school starts I will have 3 schools and 2 day cares for 6 kids. My head is already swimming with all of this.
On the upside I know the girls have had a great summer. We started with a family vacation to Albuquerque. What a trip it was. An entire another blog. Surmise to say that we won't forget that trip for a long time to come. The girls then did a week long day camp with Girl Scouts. I took a the week of July 4th off. The girls did a week long camp with Girl Scouts (Wow was the house quiet...Okay as quiet as it can be with 4 kids remaining at home!!). The have played softball and swam, visited with friends and to round out the summer we have already started volleyball.
I hope that as they get older they can look back at this summer and say "Remember when..." and do it with a smile. I know that I will.
On the upside I know the girls have had a great summer. We started with a family vacation to Albuquerque. What a trip it was. An entire another blog. Surmise to say that we won't forget that trip for a long time to come. The girls then did a week long day camp with Girl Scouts. I took a the week of July 4th off. The girls did a week long camp with Girl Scouts (Wow was the house quiet...Okay as quiet as it can be with 4 kids remaining at home!!). The have played softball and swam, visited with friends and to round out the summer we have already started volleyball.
I hope that as they get older they can look back at this summer and say "Remember when..." and do it with a smile. I know that I will.
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Growing Family
When my husband Tim and I got married we had a ready made family. We knew we wanted a large family started working on that right away. When our youngest was born we had Robby 13, Dennis 11, Sydnie 2 and our newest addition Bridgette. At the same time his sister was living with us. We had no time alone and decided we were done having children. This decision was the only time we both agreed. It didn't take long before we wanted more children but the surgery was done and there were to be no more. We have discussed this decision for years. We have contemplated reversals. We have talked about IVF. We have talked this issue to death.
Back in August we made the decision to pursue Foster care. We wanted to make a difference in a child's life. We decided to Foster to Adopt. Although we love children we had a few limitations. No children close the girls age (11 & 9), no older boys, no school age children. Fast forward to last week and the call came. We have a 7 month old little girl and an 8 year old boy. There was no conversation. We both said yes. But wait, an 8 year old boy. That goes against all of our limitation but yet we said yes.
That day last week was the best decision ever. We now have Sydnie 11, Bridgette 9, SAS is 8 and ALK is 7 months. (Due to confidentiality I cannot post our newest additions names). They are great kids. I can't imagine not having all of my kids. I know we are the honeymoon faze but I love them already. My most sincere hope it the their bio parents figure out how to be great parents and be there for the little ones. In the mean time I am Mom and Tim is Dad. We love them and we are on the ride of our life.
Back in August we made the decision to pursue Foster care. We wanted to make a difference in a child's life. We decided to Foster to Adopt. Although we love children we had a few limitations. No children close the girls age (11 & 9), no older boys, no school age children. Fast forward to last week and the call came. We have a 7 month old little girl and an 8 year old boy. There was no conversation. We both said yes. But wait, an 8 year old boy. That goes against all of our limitation but yet we said yes.
That day last week was the best decision ever. We now have Sydnie 11, Bridgette 9, SAS is 8 and ALK is 7 months. (Due to confidentiality I cannot post our newest additions names). They are great kids. I can't imagine not having all of my kids. I know we are the honeymoon faze but I love them already. My most sincere hope it the their bio parents figure out how to be great parents and be there for the little ones. In the mean time I am Mom and Tim is Dad. We love them and we are on the ride of our life.
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
Mom I am sharing religion and recruiting!!
The month is May and to just cut through the chase it means it is chaotic. We normally manage to run through soccer, softball, choir, piano, band, Math Club, Girl Scouts, Battle of the Books, friends, sleep overs, end of the school chaos, etc, etc. Let me remind everyone we also just got our Foster Care license. I don't know what they were thinking but they licensed us for 4 additional children. Keep in mind this would up the number of kids to 6 and a ratio of 6-2. Hmmmm...have we lost our mind. Probably!
Earlier this week Bridgette had soccer from 5:15 to 6:30 and Sydnie had softball 6:30-8:30. Lucky for Mom they were at the same fields. Yeah! As Sydnie is warming up Bridgette asks if she can go play. Sure (quiet time for Mom to read)! She runs off and returns within 10 minutes with a snack and a drink. Where pray tell did those come from. "Mom I was playing with the coaches son and normally he hates coming to the fields. His mom was so excited because he was having fun so she shared. Mom I told her that I needed to practice being an older sister for foster care. She thought that was cool. Then Mom I told her all about Corpus. I shared Religion with her Mom and I recruited!"
It was one of those moments when a mother's heart swells with pride and love. You realize how many things your kids catch because that pure innocence cannot be taught. So as our schedule gets more chaotic and crazy I can think back to those precious moments and realize that every day it is well worth it!!
Earlier this week Bridgette had soccer from 5:15 to 6:30 and Sydnie had softball 6:30-8:30. Lucky for Mom they were at the same fields. Yeah! As Sydnie is warming up Bridgette asks if she can go play. Sure (quiet time for Mom to read)! She runs off and returns within 10 minutes with a snack and a drink. Where pray tell did those come from. "Mom I was playing with the coaches son and normally he hates coming to the fields. His mom was so excited because he was having fun so she shared. Mom I told her that I needed to practice being an older sister for foster care. She thought that was cool. Then Mom I told her all about Corpus. I shared Religion with her Mom and I recruited!"
It was one of those moments when a mother's heart swells with pride and love. You realize how many things your kids catch because that pure innocence cannot be taught. So as our schedule gets more chaotic and crazy I can think back to those precious moments and realize that every day it is well worth it!!
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